Quotations and Advice for Realistic Living - Day Twenty

   

 

 
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Day Sixteen Tasks

Revisit your M-F schedules. Make changes to fit your unique lifestyle. Post these lists. Incorporate other family members into your schedule.

Now is the time for that consideration of your "significant other" relationships. A couple of key questions here. What has been their reaction to your disciiplined work with these tasks? Are they contributing to the work/chore schedules? Are they curious about what you are learning about yourself? Are they asking questions and stealing looks at your lists?

Or are they apathetic and resentful? Do they say things like, "are you still working on that stupid thing?" Are they attempting to guilt you for the time you seem spend on these tasks and not on them? Does doing a budget threaten them?

Like it or not, their reaction to your work here is a crystal ball into the future of your relationship.

That's one of the benefits of having excuded a direct consideration of these relationships up to this point. You were testing the value of this relationship. You know now, in your heart, whether or not the relationship passed.

How they reacted to you during these days is a true snapshot of your relationship dynamics. This dynamic, this way that you interact together, will not change significantly as your life goes forward. It CAN change, but it will take massive work; work that may or may not be worth the investment of time and energy.

You need to apply the same scrutiny now to these personal relationships that you used so effectively on the other aspects of your life. Remember? Lists of what you like and don't like. List about why you feel attracted to this person. Lists about what needs this person fills in you. Lists about activities and interests you share.

Most importantly, lists about what each of your REALISTICALLY contributes to this partnership. Whose doing the emotional and physical work here.

A line from the hit musical Pippin somewhat harshly yet very aptly summarizes it. "Is the fornicating you're getting worth the fornicating you're getting." Then make some decisions. Choose actions to execute those actions. It really is just that simple. And do it now. Life is short. The tides continue to change. Procrastination is self esteem's biggest enemy.

Write everything down. Daily.

1. Take a bath or shower. Wear cologne, perfume, deodorant, floss and brush your teeth. Shave. Do nails, eyebrows, ears.
2. Bed made. Sheets washed. You deserve clean bedding.
3. Continue your daily list non productive activities.

Continue working to eliminate non productive activities.

4. Take photos every day.
5. Friend List
6. Continue the thank you notes as needed.

Continue to print copies and put in a folder.

7. Continue writing down and memorizing the names of new people.
8. Keep your house in order. Make of schedule of the things you want to change.
9. Plan a specific monthly budget. Continue keeping receipts. It makes you acutely aware of where your money goes.
10. Continue finding ways to like everyone with whom you work.

Again, it makes no difference to them. Only to you.

11. Put $1.25 in cash in a glass on your bedstand.
     
         
                 
 
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